Dubi, I think you are comletely misreading this. I think they used "mother and father" as a metaphore for having to choose between two things that are equally important.
Both the army and the "hityashvut" cannot exist without a state. in fact they are both just means to that end. The dillema that they are facing is directly related to the state - they are (or were) being asked to decide which of these is more important to the state.

So, what you're saying is that it is ok for me to think differently as long as i admit that i'm wrong? ever thought about the possibility that your ideas are dangerous to our future?

Well, that's not how I understood the sentence I have quoted but maybe it's just me. In any case that was not my main point, care to comment on the other things I have said?